Place the milk, water and 1 teaspoon salt in a large saucepan and bring to a simmer. Slowly whisk in the cornmeal until evenly combined. Lower the flame and cook, stirring often, until the grits are thick and softened, about 18 to 20 minutes.

In the meantime, set a large skillet over moderate heat with 2 tablespoons oil. Once hot, add the diced Spam and cook until crispy. Using a slotted spoon, transfer the Spam to a platter or bowl and set aside. Drizzle the remaining tablespoon of oil into the skillet and add the sweet potato. Cook for about 5 minutes to slightly brown and begin to soften. Stir in the red onion and cook for another minute or so to soften the onion. Add the shredded kale, a handful at a time, and cook until wilted each addition has wilted somewhat. Season with a pinch of salt, black pepper and crushed red pepper. Cook for a minute or two longer until the kale is bright green. You don't want to overcook the kale or else it'll turn brown. Return the Spam to the skillet and turn off the heat.

Add the cheese and butter to the grits and stir until melted through. Give it a taste and adjust seasoning accordingly, adding more salt and pepper as needed.

To serve portion out the grits into shallow bowls and spoon over the Spam hash mixture. Top each bowl with a fried egg and sliced scallions. Serve with hot sauce and enjoy!